Try new things.

I always say this, because getting into a routine is hard to start, and even harder to get out of. The thing is, it took you a lot to get started, right?

Sure, it is better than not doing it. Absolutely. However, how long do you think you can just go through the motions?

I have one client who does the same thing, in the same order when he comes in on his own, 3 X a week. He knows exactly where he wants to go, and how long it takes him. Then he is off to work. His office is only about 3 blocks away, and he has it down. I don’t do any of the stuff he does during that time with him, and he is used to that as well.

That is what I get hired for. I want to know what the new fitness trends are, weigh them out, and see how they can benefit others, not just myself. However, I have worked in facilities where people have never touched or even a point to know what equipment is a part of the gym that they pay to use every month! At least ask, you know?

Many times we make goals, we even obsess over them. Believe me, I know! More than you may think. We reach plateaus, and we just wanna quit. It’s frustrating. Still, we have to keep going, because we remember what started us on our paths, right?

For many of us, it begins to define us. We cannot fail, because we don’t deliver on a promise, a failure of the soul perhaps. We become absorbed into the chasm of endless effort, pushing harder and harder, because it becomes all we know, to the point where we know longer know ourselves.

Sound about right? Beeeeeeeeeeeeecause I have been there. And when you have to re – assess where you are. You just do. If what you set out to do isn’t making you happy, or at least satisfied, you have to re – direct. I kinda said it last blog, but it’s a running theme throughout my job, because I do have constantly do so to get people to adapt to a changing schedule, or what have you.

It’s become a running theme with me, too.

Yeah, you get tired of that diet. So, start looking into alternatives, especially if nothing is happening anymore. It may be that your body is used to the calorie expenditure, you may actually have to eat a little more for a minute. Don’t gasp. Maybe it’s less. Maybe some adjustments have to be made to your workout times for a little while. Maybe it’s time to shift focus.

None of these should seem insurmountable. I said “should”. My point is, be adaptable. Look at what you are doing, and ask yourself what the common threads are, and then be ready to move them around or even change them.  What is more important? Your current cycle, or that goal?

Here’s another thing – you’re going to have to ask questions. Yes, you may even have to ask a real person. You may have to get feedback. You know what? You will have the support and encouragement it takes to attain what you really, really want.

Just accept that there are no easy answers, but you will find yours. There are many ways to get there. Sure, this doesn’t sound completely like fitness, but it is universal. In a fitness goal, it may be beyond just hopping down from the treadmill or elliptical. It may mean walking away from your favorite Hammer Strength machine, and picking up a dumbbell. It may mean walking away from that Barbell Squat Rack and pulling up to that Kettlebell shelf that wasn’t that far away.

Now, with that written advice, I will definitely advise seeking instruction. Not everything is free of risk, but reward is greater when you know what to do.

Alright. That is that.

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You Just Be A More Awesome You

I may have even said that before. Not really sure. I will say it again, because it bears repeating.

You be a better you.

I have had to say this to others many times, but also to myself. You see, it comes from a conversation with a former client, as it came to a sort of crossroads as to what they really wanted, and what I can do for them. Many of us in this career know that there are two types of clients. the ones that show up for their hour and do everything they’re told, and just pay because they like this as a routine, and the ones that you have to accompany on their journey as a sort of guide.

I had to sort of make it clear what my own strengths as a trainer are. What I prefer to do. What I specialize in, even though I avoided being defined by specialty. Still, I had to ask myself this, so I can make it clear as to what it is I do.

I will make you stronger.

What does that mean? Not just lifting, but able to function much better over the course of your day. To give you back what a sedentary lifestyle and the stress it has cause had taken from you.  That entails many things. It can be done in a gym, it can be done at home. With barbells, dumbbells, or kettlebells, it can be done. I will show you how.

I will help you become a stronger you.

You must examine why you want a transformation, if that is what you want, and you had better define it. I am not trying to take your bacon away, I just want you to eat it less often. The stories of that one grandfather who “ate bacon every day and lived into his 80’s” is purely anecdotal, especially when you find out he was a farmer, or in the infantry in either the Army or Marine Corps for almost 30 years, and was still on a workout program.  If you are 230 lbs to his 160, perhaps you shouldn’t compare yourself to him.

Again, I didn’t say you couldn’t eat bacon. Or cake. Just not so much of it.

Now, if you are someone who wants to lose weight, it will require sacrifice. I am not obsessed with that. You are. I can’t do be there to smack your hand out of the pantry. You have to do that. I want you to do it. I want you to gain that control, to make the sacrifice. With that, you will be stronger. Mind, Body, Spirit.

I want it for you, but I can’t do it for you.

You must follow through. That is that. I will take you through it, and I won’t half – ass it, but if you aren’t reaching the goal, one of us is. I will make strength and cardio goals to reach in order for you to try to do it, but if you don’t want to change, then you will have to be honest with yourself, and even amend your goals, and be happy with that. Quitting should not be an option.

This is really more of a manifesto, isn’t it?

Fair Enough. I think as I am sort of attacking this New Year, I have had to gut – check a bit.  I have to do it so I can help other people do it. I have to ask what I really want before I try to get it. Know what direction you want to go in and make sure you’re still on it. Sometimes you even have to ask, “Where am I going, anyway?”, but it’s okay to ask again, just to make sure you are still going there. You can get sidetracked. I want to make sure you don’t. Really, this isn’t directed at anyone in particular. Is it a series of events that led me to a conclusion? Yeah, but it obviously needed to be said.

I will make you stronger. I will make you use your body. I will show you how to be better physically. I will make sure you can function better. I won’t make you skinny, you have to do that. If the genes are making it complicated, then amend the goal, or even your definition of “skinny”.  But, most of all, don’t let it define YOU.

We are going to do this, the work. The sacrifice is yours.

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Yes, Yes, I’m back.

It has been a minute since I posted one of these, hasn’t it? Well, I have been making my own resolutions, really, some before the New Year, returning to a keyboard is a main one. I have not been a diligent blogger, and I will own that. Still, here I am, basically, to catch up, and talk about what’s next.

Honestly, 2015 was a lesson for me, personally. It really coulda been better, it definitely had its ups and downs, but I am not fond of it overall, as the last few months of it were entirely too stressful. I came out of it, but I really want to beat the crap out of 2016.  So, I will share the positives of it.

  1. I got back into martial arts. This was something I had been wanting to do for some time. It teaches you many things. Many things that can be quite empowering, mentally and physically. It’s not just about kicking somebody’s ass, it’s also about learning what you aren’t as good at, and understanding where to begin improvement. It teaches you that in life, you will be tested. You must be prepared. This is in all things. There are no dangerous systems, only dangerous people. If you dedicate and not hold back when you are tested, you will be dangerous. I really needed this again, as it helps me form my own plans, the other thing that makes it all important is follow through. I need to be consistent on that. I have struggled with depression throughout my life, all there is in life is the next minute, hour, and day. I can’t stress enough how helpful learning a martial art is. I recommend it. Highly.
  2. I got re – certified, and a new certification.  In my job, you have to keep learning new things in order to keep a reputable certification. I did that, I joined the family of High Intensity Kettlebell Fitness trainers, and learned a new approach to programming, and the principles of something that is growing in popularity for the right reasons, and more tricks in the magic bag. Or something like that.
  3. I continued acting, shooting a web series.  Yes. Yes, I did. I didn’t do too much with the acting beyond that, really,  except a bit part in a film. The series, Shotgun Mythos, returns to production next month. You can find it on Youtube,  I play Joss Washburn, the main character. Not bragging, just letting you know I am the first voice you hear on the show. I am starting to form a more cohesive plan, mainly because it is definitely coming to a point where I can’t just do it because I like it. That’s for young, single folk, not married dudes in their 30’s. There has to be a battle plan. So, I wrote it. So there.
  4. I did Brutal Camp all summer.  Yup. I hope everyone had fun, too.
  5. I was featured in one of the local newspapers.  It was a lot of fun. I talked about philosophy and various interests that I think also contribute to how I do my job. It’s posted on my Facebook if you would like to see it. I can post it here, too.
  6. I was a part – time bouncer for 4 months.  That’s another blog for another day.
  7. I lost nearly 30 lbs.  I changed a lot of the ways I did things. I was big, strong, but didn’t like the way I looked on film. I did something about it. I talked to another trainer who specialized in this kinda thing. I changed my lifting program, added in fasted cardio, and adhere to a strict diet. Is it a challenge? You bet. It’s hard to adhere to a strict diet. Still, there is nothing worth attaining without sacrifice, there is no sacrifice without suffering.  
  8. Star Wars made me happy.  

Alright, there are my bright spots. My brief list of things to work on is marketing. I have to get the word out, it’s the nature of the beast. I don’t like talking about myself on social media,  I need to get over it.  I need to find out where the people I want are, then I need to tell them to train with me. Once again, it comes down to consistency and follow – through.

Happy New Year, everyone. Let’s kick 2016’s ass!

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Myths I heard TODAY. And what I said to them.

Ok, so I have told you guys at least a million times what I am up against, so this time I will send you elsewhere. Now, if information is still a struggle for you, ( assuming you had been believing these myths ), then you probably need to talk to a professional. Extreme cognitive dissonance is actually a sign of a potential personality disorder, and I am not the one you should be arguing with, or even talking to any further.

1) “Weights will make me bulky” –

Immediate response : “Are you now? Then what the hell are you worried about?”

Seriously. I hear this at least once a week. It’s 2015. Stop it. Let me first send you to a simple one

A) http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/09/11/7-strength-training-myths-every-woman-should-know/

B) Here is one by a qualified professional.

http://breakingmuscle.com/womens-fitness/2-myths-about-women-and-weight-lifting-debunked

C) Something from a reputable publication.

http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2014/12/you-should-probably-be-lifting-weights.html

D) Just. Here.

http://www.prevention.com/fitness/fitness-tips/heavy-weight-lifting-has-health-benefits-women

E) And lookie here. A book!!!!

http://www.amazon.com/The-New-Rules-Lifting-Women/dp/1583333398

I am not going to spend any more time dispelling that. Or discuss social standards, which are not a good reason to go into the gym in the first place. If how you are judged by others in your appearance is how you validate yourself, then talk to the aforementioned professional who can help you with that.

B)  “Spot Training”

Immediate response : “And just how long have you been training that spot?”

You may receive threats to your person if you still believe this one. Okay, maybe not that extreme. However, it is a myth. Period. I don’t give a CRAP what you read in “Cosmo”. I am sure you learned a hundred different ways of an orgasm, and the how models are just better than everyone, which is pretty much the same crap that they have been telling us since day one. Do people still read this magazine?

1) Here. Just. Here.

https://www.horizonfitness.com/blog/fitness-myths-the-science-behind-spot-training/

2) From a Strength & Conditioning Coach.

http://breakingmuscle.com/strength-conditioning/spot-reduction-one-final-attempt-to-kill-the-myth

3) “Gotta get them guns, B.”

Immediate response: None. I just grin and shake my head. Then walk away.

I am going to tell you a couple of things that many bodybuilders don’t quite understand, that could reduce their chance of injury, while still maximizing GAINZZZ, BRUH!!!

All kidding aside, I believe symmetry can still be achieved without attempting to isolate too many small muscles, instead treating them as the synergistic muscles they actually are. The point of strength training is just that – strength. Strength, as it is measured in competitive weightlifting, and functionality overall, is muscles working in unison to move heavier objects.

The definition according to Webster’s.

strength

noun \ˈstreŋ(k)th, ˈstren(t)th\

: the quality or state of being physically strong

: the ability to resist being moved or broken by a force

: the quality that allows someone to deal with problems in a determined and effective way.

A single muscle that is stronger than its synergistic counterpart is not in balance. It means YOU are not strong, especially when put at risk of injury due to that imbalance. But don’t just take my word for it.

A) http://www.sportandme.com/docs/sports/gym-and_body_building/body-part-isolation.html

B) The positives and negatives of both.

http://www.hoffmanfit.com/compound-vs-isolation-exercises-how-to-build-a-powerful-workout-routine/

C) And here.

https://teamgametimefitness.wordpress.com/2014/08/01/the-dangers-heavy-isolation-exercises/

4) “Weights? I’m too old to start that.”

Immediate response : “You’re here now. As long as you can move, you can carry a load.”images-2

You’re not dead. You take the TRX, Yoga classes, and walk on the treadmill, but everything except the weight room. I ask you why. You say “I am just focused on daily living, not trying to lift a car”. Right. That’s why everyone is here. To lift a car.

Look, I wouldn’t bother with this, but I see a lot of scared old people, male and female, who have said this on more than one occasion, as if they will wake up one day and not be able to stand up anymore, and begin to dessicate while still alive!!!!! Muahahahahahah!

Ok, no. I realize many of these people are just set in their way, but I have also noticed many of these people grew up in the Golden Age of Madison Avenue, and just didn’t seem to believe that the people who sold them their products would lie to them. So, if they read something somewhere, in some magazine, it is now the sole truth. You can’t tell them anything now. They are plucky individuals, and they got this far without you stickin’ your nose in where it don’t belong.

Then you hear about their health issues, and how they were basically told they had to start exercising, some due to hypertension, some due to spinal issues. They are loaded with prescriptions, and really don’t know what each one does, or why they’re taking them, or whether or not their doctor might be receiving incentives to prescribe. The don’t ask.

These folks frustrate me the most, because the excuses they tell me are just pure nonsense. The sources, if any, are a joke, but what do you know? You don’t write in a magazine, now do you???

Many of these people have had a scare. They feel they are losing control of their lives as things began happening to them that they don’t fully understand. The idea of having to trust someone else with information is almost traumatic in itself to them, as everything they thought they had known was wrong.  They may have made huge contributions to their own bodily deterioration. I totally get that. However, facts don’t change. They are here for guidance. You must acknowledge that you may have never been in control as much as you thought you were, but with help, you can be more than you had been.

So, here you are.

A) http://consumer.healthday.com/encyclopedia/aging-1/misc-aging-news-10/seniors-and-weightlifting-never-too-late-647213.html

B) http://healthyliving.azcentral.com/should-lift-heavy-weights-after-40-7887.html

C) http://www.npr.org/2011/02/21/133776800/seniors-can-still-bulk-up-on-muscle-by-pressing-iron

There are more myths, but I am not a Mythbuster. I try to provide information for you, but that’s all I can do. If you are still having issues with everything you are learning, then read this first – “http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/10/19/fighting-cognitive-dissonance-the-lies-we-tell-ourselves/”

Now talk to a mental health professional. Understand what your own blockages are to success when someone is trying to help you. Really, that’s all I want to do. There is a lot of information available to you, and I would love to help you find it. Or just help you through it.

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HI, everyone.

I haven’t been diligent with this blog.

OK, I said it. Shut up.

Let this also be a confession – 2014 was an up and down year. For personal training, especially. I learned quite a bit, as this career seems, more than any other, to be a quest of growth and learning. People are all different, and you must help them be better at being them.

Make no mistake. My job isn’t to make people love exercise, but to help people get through it, to coach them through the tasks they normally wouldn’t tackle themselves. They may hate it, but they won’t hate the results.

Anyway, last year was loaded with learning experiences. Even in your 30’s, you can still feel a bit of childlike wonder at the things you haven’t found out yet. You can meet inspiring people, who don’t live to inspire, they just live their lives, but with a grace that wouldn’t have occurred to you in the face of your own adversity, because yours was far too urgent and you had merely been escalating it with your own anxiety, as its unfamiliarity seemed to make it impossible. It wasn’t. You live, so therefore you must fight. That’s it.

There are many things that take precedence, it seems, over our lives our well – being, and they create the prisons of our own making. The idea that you are nothing if you don’t have things. The McMansions, the giant SUVs, the latest gaming systems, whatever. Life itself, the quality of it, takes a backseat to the day to day. I am not judging, but I am observing. I am verbalizing those observations, and I see what you spend your money on, and not invest in yourself. I know what is behind your excuses.

I am not in the business of telling you what you want to hear, either.

However, I am not here to belittle. I want you to understand this one principle, the one that anyone how really grasps life, and understands it –

There is nothing worth attaining without sacrifice. There is no sacrifice without suffering.

Now, what this means, is a bit more simple. It is a question you must answer.

“What must I give up to achieve a more worthy goal? What is it truly worth?”

Is it worth that dollar at the vending machine? Is it worth that extra slice of cake? Is it worth piling more processed crap into my shopping cart? Seriously, you tell me.

Ok, so back to the year. I didn’t talk much about it, so I should tell you what I went through. Well, I lost 20 more pounds, mainly because it was the right thing to do for my acting career, and also because the Tough Mudder kinda taught me I should. Some obstacles were more difficult than others. I needed to get lighter. It’s a continuing journey, but I am not unhappy with the results. Is the diet boring? Well, it’s a bit repetitive. I will also say the holidays are a REALLY tough time to diet. However, it’s good for the soul, so I trudged on.

You get used to turning down cookies. You really do.

So, I did a couple of films, too, and shot another season of the web series. I don’t have a whole lot of things to say as to where you can see them just yet, only that I did them, and anything else, well, I will let you know. I can definitely tell you their Facebook locations. They are headed to film festivals, and the like. The web series? That is beginning a reboot, and I am on board for it. I will link that for you. Yeah, that was exciting news, too.

http://www.shotgunmythos.com/

https://www.facebook.com/YourPomegranate

https://www.facebook.com/ReversalMovie

I began teaching a class, one of my own design, and I do it twice a week. I plan on revamping Brutal Camp a bit, and relaunch in April. That was a lot of fun, but as anyone knows, promotion is always the uphill battle, getting others to commit to it is fighting that battle while riding a mule who wants to walk backwards. Mule jousting. Yeah, it’s like that.

I have more to say, but I don’t want to ramble. Not today, anyway. I will, however, leave you with pictures. The Gang showing loveToshiba beginning the flipTiffany on MB at TMMe eating at TMMatt Deadlifting 300Group Symposium photoChanging of the guard

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A perspective.

I was having a conversation with a client about why I am involved in so many projects. She was wondering how it can be done, and what was the purpose in pushing myself in so many directions, which was a reasonable thing to question. I pondered that, and told her my answer at another session.

Before I go on, I should mention she is a straight – A student at SHS, but struggles with a serious illness, CMT. I myself had a pretty serious illness, which I had spent 6 yrs of my own life getting treated, that being Adult Onset Stills’ Disease. If anyone has had had an auto – immune disorder, you know how scary an attach can be. However, with a lot of unpleasant medication, mine was managed and phased out.

She, however, isn’t out of the woods, and is getting as strong as she can so that her recovery from yet another foot surgery can go a little quicker this time. She does those Kettlebell deadlifts with no complaints. I have to ask her what her limits are, because she wants to push past them. Needless to say, I am proud of her, but I just don’t want to seem patronizing.

Ok, ok. This was my answer. “When you feel like you have been close to punching your ticket, when you have been so sick that you actually wonder if your body will just shut down rather than feel worse, all you want is another shot. So, if it could happen, and you know it can and will, then it’s about what you will leave behind. These were the things I loved when all is said and done.”

She just smiled and nodded in approval. She got it. So, yeah, I guess it is something I constantly think about. I will leave you at that.

For information on CMT, read here.

http://help4cmt.com/articles/?id=133&pn=personal-stories-triathlete-trainer-with-charcot-marie-tooth

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Man. Lots on my mind.

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My last post was really kinda ranty, wasn’t it? I was pretty much a bummer. I usually like to be upbeat, but that day just sucked. It got better. Not to mention, my birthday had just passed, so perspective sort of smacked me across the face with its aged leather gauntlet.

I still see Facebook as a massive social experiment. People seem to take themselves waaaay too seriously on here, and they do and say things that they would never do or say to someone in person.  I don’t believe in marginalizing anyone or a group of people just because you don’t agree with them. I see a LOT of it in a newsfeed on a daily basis.

Seriously, it’s amazing how deeply affected people can be by viewpoints that I may have seen as trite or trivial. It amazes me the impressions they can have from celebrities, or the loathing they can have for someone that they had never met. I don’t get it, but I am not them. Man. Aspects about people you don’t know that shouldn’t matter to you that you choose to hate, or because people like them. I dunno. Just not something I look at or concern myself with.

I understand the great rule of thumb to follow is never discuss politics or religion. Now, there are plenty of people expressing their political opinion or what their faith means to them through memes, but here are the things I often post to just gauge reaction from people to really kinda see what people see as taboo any more. Many of them relate to my job as a trainer as well. Here comes the list.

 

1) Food or dietary advice articles. Oh my goodness. I simply put it out there. Some things are kinda bad for you. I have eaten them, too. My lifetime has not been without the ingestion of junk at some point, I just really don’t wanna have my diet being nothing but junk food. Eat what you want. I get that not everyone has had to bear too many consequences for it, but I know plenty of people who have. This is advice. Do what you wanna do.

Seriously, I get that not everyone wants to look statuesque. Totally. You don’t wanna be all “Calvin Klein”. Ok. However, there are people who come to me who don’t want to look Calvin Klein – esque. They would, however, like to adopt a healthy lifestyle, because they have gone through too many extremes. Those extremes have affected them, there is no moderation for them. Kinda like giving up drinking. Yes. Yes it is. Any extreme can draw this comparison.

Many people out there may want to lose weight. I am posting for them, mainly. That may not be you. And if it should be, then I will let you draw that conclusion.

But, wow, do people get defensive over that one. Just, wow. Some of the smartest people I know just hate it when I post an article about what is in ice cream sandwiches. Hint: it’s not ice cream. Still, if you know this and still wanna eat it, then go for it. Cool. Nobody told you not to. This is part of my job, guys.

Dude. Even Neil DeGrasse Tyson kinda missed the point on the topic. Look, if people wanna eat GMOs, I don’t care. I just wanna know is all. THAT’S ALL! Is it proven that growing my own corn would be better for me? Maybe not. But I would still like to know what I am eating. Do I buy into any hysteria surrounding it? No. I just don’t want to know. That’s it.

Good grief, I remember posting an article about how the process of cooking doughnuts and French Fries was generally bad for you, and a couple of guys who never seem to comment on anything, but post how awesome being single is, how people with kids suck and inconvenience them ( Yeah, somebody was always the best and the smartest in Mom’s eyes, and she sure did tell them a LOT.) or how they have the life, they just had to think they were going to let me have it. One wasn’t even my Facebook friend, but I avoided him in High School. I wasn’t FB friends with him for a reason. He was a jackass. He was even meaner to people who didn’t acknowledge his superior intellect.

Look, if it brings that much ire from you, the problem isn’t the food. It’s just information. Resenting it for what it is won’t change that it exists. This is true of many things, and leaving that behind and accepting it will actually make your choices much firmer to you, whatever they are. You won’t need to dispute them for anyone. However, if you eat them too much, you will not be in the best of health. And if you want to be more athletic, then you have to put them down. Sorry. But not.

2) Entertainment . Holy Mother of Blanche Dubois, do I have a lot of friends with strong opinions. Like what you like. Seriously, nothing seems to be more filled with unnecessary hyperbole as things that pertain to movies, TV shows, and music. That is quite interesting to me. Apparently if TMNT is popular, the end of Western Civilization has come. A movie for kids, mind you. “Oh, and hey – if you don’t think so, I can pull up this snarky blogsite to back me up!!! See? You suck. You should be ashamed.” This is just one example.

There is no better way to lose an argument than to present opinion as fact. Rather than say ” I think that….”, you begin it with “This is terrible, and an insult to my intelligence!” Or my favorite (especially by single men over 25), “(Insert filmmaker here) They’re ruining my childhood.” Hyperbole doesn’t make it more true, either.

This is a tip I have learned through a experience. I am really not singling anyone out, mainly because I know at least 25 people who have been guilty of this on social media. SO, how do you know if you lost an argument? When you didn’t get the other side to acknowledge your point, not when you received accolades from your friends or like – minded people. When you didn’t show the understanding of their viewpoint, and used absolutes to express your opinion, as it is through empathy for an opposing opinion that you can begin to dissect it. It’s really effective. Remember that when you are scrolling your message boards.  Or snarky blogs. I AM NOT SNARKY!!!!

Oh, and it also seems to be true for workout advice.

3) HEY! Young People! Who are these “haters” you speak of??? I am going to actually cite an example, but not specifically name her. She is an actress/model, and 19 years old. Pretty girl, as it is probably a requirement in being a model who works. Ok. She posted one of her many selfies, and captioned the latest one with “One for all my haters”. I saw no hate in the comment section, just more affirmation of how pretty and talented she was, which she was probably just looking for anyway.

I have seen numerous people post about the haters, usually it’s people who post a lot of selfies. Usually young people. Usually in some sort of entertainment. They are struggling. It is a struggle, going to auditions out of town, and maybe not even getting the part and spending the gas to get there, just to have the opportunity of tempting fate. Why? Beats never having tried.

Actually, it’s not just entertainers. It’s just people who post a lot of selfies seem to be really paranoid that haters are going to prevent them from achieving their personal objective, and they are somehow posting pictures that solicit adulation is standing up to these mysterious conspirators.

News flash – there aren’t. No one is trying to stop you. You just can’t seem to face that you can be responsible for both your successes and your failures. No one made that happen but you. If you make bad decisions, then correct the tendency to make bad decision by re – examining the outcome. If you can’t, and you seek the adulation and sympathy when you suffer the consequences, that is called narcissism. Recognize it, and you can get it under control. If not, you will become toxic to others, and you will achieve none of your objectives.

Now, young folks, many of you can outgrow it. No, really. Just know that life will continue beyond this moment in time. Make short term goals that will lead you to the big picture, then stay with your plan. Don’t let anyone create distraction for you, and don’t empower toxic people by blaming them.

Also, many of the people who got up in arms about something I posted are probably not going to read this. I totally understand that.  It didn’t have a headline that meant something to them. It’s only people who feel the need to defend a position on something that has a singular meaning to them that do. And that’s fine. It makes me appreciate those of you who read this that much more. I am grateful for you if this is of interest to you, the reader.

Yep, That’s all I got for right now.

Thanks for stopping by.

 

 

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